Happy Wednesday, Happy Hump Day, Happy Summer!
Hopefully all of you lovelies have been staying cool. We’ve been having hot weather lately and very little rain, so I’m praying for a good soak to relieve the farmers and our thirsty garden. We actually have an excessive heat warning today!?! because the real feel is 110, yikes 😮
I know y’all are here for WIAW, you nosey people you. Just kidding I love stalking other people’s eats too. So, today I’m sharing my eats, in the usual WIAW fashion, but I also wanted to share a topic that’s been on my heart…comparison.
It’s so easy to look at another person and compare their abilities/talents/knowledge/success to your own, but it’s so pointless. Essentially when you compare yourself, you’re forgetting that you are individual and unique. There is no other person on the planet, over 7 billion people mind you, that is exactly like you. That is incredible.
Let me back track a little. I’m not saying that we should never look at another person and recognize their differences or be inspired by their accomplishments, maybe even driven to do what they did, but when we let that comparison make us feel inadequate or unsuccessful, that’s where it becomes an issue.
I think social media plays a huge role in this. Our feeds are loaded with perfect pictures of seemingly perfect people, and honestly, it makes us feel like our lives should more perfect. Sometimes a break from instagram or facebook can be very healthy in bringing us back to reality. Also, just remembering that every “perfect” picture has a story.
The other thing that comparison can bring is what I guess would be called malicious justification. I just kinda made that up, but basically bringing another person down because you feel insecure.
“Well she’s really pretty, but she’s probably super vain and shallow.” “He’s getting into Princeton, but I’m sure he’s a rich, stuck-up snob.” “She started her own business, but I bet she never has time for her family.” This just leads to more bitterness and hatefulness inside you, towards yourself and others around you.
You know the Beatles song, Love is All You Need? Well, if you don’t or haven’t heard it for awhile, give it a listen. That’s my answer to comparison. Love yourself. Love others. Appreciate the light that everyone brings. And I get it, it seems like such an easy answer, but it’s not. It’s really difficult.
But I do believe that it can be learned and cultivated over time. It’s hard for me to write this because you better bet I struggle with comparison. Academically, I have to find my boundaries and realize that no, I can’t take a billion AP classes, and do sports, and play an instrument, and volunteer, and work, and be involved in 40 different clubs. Maybe other people can, but if I tried, I would wear myself out. And that’s okay. Physically, being a size 0 isn’t healthy for me. Again some people are naturally that small, and that’s okay. Mentally, I know I need time to decompress every night and be reflective. Some people don’t need that, and that’s okay. I also know that I need to stay busy and try new things or I get lazy and stagnant. Other people might not need that, and that’s okay.
Embrace our differences. Celebrate our individuality. LOVE each other. Truthfully, we’re all just trying to find our way in this world, why adulterate the journey with comparison.
Bye loves ❤
No questions today, just thoughts 🙂