Do you ever feel like your mind is fast forwarding a few hours, a day, a month ahead of you? Yeah, me too. It is especially pronounced during seasons of change. Currently, thinking about the switch from high school to college has been causing some consternation. Where will I end up? Will I do well academically? Will I make friends? Will I find a job or pursue a higher degree?
Beyond my situation, getting married, changing your career, or moving can induce that thought process. I would venture to say, that thinking about the future is healthy. It’s wonderful to dream about what the next several years will be like with the love your life or how exciting it will be to pursue your major in college, that’s okay. But, when those thoughts cause stress, and in turn that stress becomes distress, then the innocuous thinking pattern has become harmful.
There are questions I have been asking myself over the past few months, as I tentatively await for college decisions, that do not foster healthy thought. They make me feel distressed about the future. Although the habit of thinking “in the future” is really hard to break(I’ll probably be working on it for the rest of my life), we can remind ourselves of TRUTH when the mind is working overtime.
Where will I end up?–You don’t know. I don’t know. He/she doesn’t know. It is out of our control. Scary huh? Hate to break it to you, but just thinking about it doesn’t give us even a smidgen of control. Speaking for myself, it only results in fear and worry. Focus on the present, the here and now. What choices can I make now that will positively impact the future. Beyond that, it’s just faith.
Will I be successful?–Success is a relative term. You can be successful by being a loving person and giving your time to other people. You can be successful by making lots of moolah. You can be successful by learning a lot, being a mom/dad, traveling, reading, being a garbage truck driver/painter/writer/politician/teacher. Get the point? Being you and pursuing your gifts…that is success.
What if ____ doesn’t work out?–Life rarely “works out” how we plan it to work out, which is a good thing I might add. We would miss out on so many growth initiating experiences if life always “worked out.”
What if I disappoint myself, my family, my friends?–Two things about this one. A) In most cases, your family and friends are rooting for you! They love you! (family you’re stuck with, but if your friends don’t love you, find better friends. I’ll be your friend ❤ ) So if something doesn’t work out, hopefully they can be your support system! B) The worst that can happen is that you fail. If that happens, it’s okay. We all fail. Failure is an excellent way to learn how to not do something.
Hopefully there were a few nuggets of truth to pull out and carry with you, if you happen to have an overactive brain like me.
Ooooh one last thing! One of my favorite people started her own very own blog!!! Go check out her first post. She has much wisdom to share.
Bye loves ❤
So tell me…
What questions do you have about the future?
How do you remind yourself of truth when thoughts about the future are overwhelming?