I had an epiphany at work on Friday.
At my sandwich making station, people watching as I usually do, it hit me.
Being friendly is actually really hard. You’ve heard the good old adage, “Kindness is free.” Well, yes. It’s free. Heading out your door and running 50 miles is free too, but that doesn’t make it easy.
Anyway, my point is this. Kindness is really hard for two reasons. First, it forces us to be vulnerable, which doesn’t feel comfortable. When we smile or greet someone, there is always a chance that the person will return it with a scowl or not even acknowledge you. That feels crappy. Second, kindness goes against an ingrained nature that says, “It’s not my responsibility to be kind, thoughtful, etc. She can fend for herself.” That kind of mentality stems from our(America’s) fiercely individualistic culture and generational apathy.
But I digress.
To those of you who show kindness even though it’s hard, know that you all make the world a brighter place. It might be difficult, but its difficulty makes the practice of kindness even more meaningful.
…speaking of kindness, it’s time for some self directed kindness in the form of Week in Review. Reflection and celebration of past weeks can be an excellent way to give yourself a mini pat on the back for accomplished tasks. Many thanks to Meg for hosting.
- Made some headway in Outlier, by Malcolm Gladwell.
- Jumped back aboard the hot oatmeal train.
- Washed laundry, cleaned my bathroom, and mopped floors. Cleaning is hugely satisfying for me…probably because you can see all of your progress immediately. I like that.
- Soaked up a warm sunrise on my way to school.
- Filled out several scholarship applications. Free money pleeease.
- Set up a visit to Simmons College that will take place on Thursday and Friday.
- Finished my longest run for my half marathon training. In 70° F weather. Probably a sign of global warming, but I’ll take it for now. (The half is only three weeks away. Whoop.)
- Made these vegan muffins and posted the recipe on the blog.
- Finally finished editing a series of posts that will come next week. I’m excited and anxious to share them with you all. I’ve been working on them for a long time.
So tell me…
Is kindness hard for you?
What did you do last week?
Current feelings about hot oatmeal?