First, I would probably smile a little awkwardly and give you a tight, squeezy hug. Hopefully we know each other well enough (or think we know each other well enough) that the hug softens some of my awkwardness.
Then, we would order the obligatory tea (or coffee if it’s your thing). And I would ask you how you’ve been. I would ask you how you’ve really been, and I wouldn’t ask it as a formality with the expectation of a studied response. I would really want to hear what’s going on.
If the weather been making you feel weird too.
If you’ve been eating well. (I’m such a mom.)
If you’ve been down or fantastically happy or just meh. I would tell you that the finalization of college things (like the grand reveal of roommates and mailing addresses and class schedules) is making me feel excitement but also a fair amount of nervousness. I would tell you that I started reading Swann’s Way: In Search of Lost Time. That’s about all I could do because I’m not far yet, and it’s meant for a tenured college professor not a seventeen year old dork who barely knows her way around the most fundamental pieces of literature. Le sigh.
Then I would ask if you’ve found any worthwhile books, articles, You Tube videos and readily accept any recommendations. You would tell me my tea is getting cold. So I would sip and ask you about your family.
How are they? Have you seen them?
I would tell you that I visited my big sisters on Tuesday. We ate noodles and walked around Home Goods and T J Maxx until our feet hurt. They spoiled me and bought me dorm room supplies. You would tell me about the coworker who drives you up a wall or vent about politics. We would giggle about the state of the world because if we didn’t, our check in might take a teary turn, which would be okay too.I might mention that I’ve been running a lot less and eating more of what I actually want. I would tell you it’s been mostly okay, but that it also scares me.
You would tell me a cliché about how doing what scares us most makes us grow into vibrant people, and I would appreciate it because clichés are my thing.
We would finish up the conversation and head our separate ways, feeling more clued in and socially savvy.
Who says socializing is hard?
*finishes typing post about a hypothetical conversation with virtual friends and retreats to her hobbit hole*
Linking up with Meg for Week in Review.
So tell me…
How have you been? (I’m always an email away if comments aren’t your thing.)
What would you order if we met for tea/coffee?